In this era of coddling and babying our children until well into their thirties, we parents have been admonished by sociologists and diaper companies that we should NOT push our children into toileting or reading before they have fully exhausted all 5 sizes of diapers and fully utilized the preschools that eschew academics. “Don’t push them until they are ready” is the mantra of the day! Baloney Crap! Well, I made that mistake kid #1. I can tell you that a busy boy will sit in his own filth until he is well into his threes and fours and resist even then. It was well into hundreds of dollars of parenting books and large diapers that I snapped out of it. No! No! No! Beware! Every new parenting trend comes with a consumer agenda.
In truth, skills like self toileting and reading are skills that open doors. When a child can take himself to the bathroom he is free! He no longer has to find you, and take that precious time away from Legos or trucks in order to be cleaned and diapered.
Reading is also a skill of freedom and independence. Yes, it is nice to read to your children, and it doesn’t have to end simply because they can read to themselves. Reading early does not cause kids to dislike reading when they are older. When a child can read the labels of grocery items and door signs, they are empowered! This goes for math skills as well. And sorting skills, money skills and motor skills like balance. As parents, we need to look for opportunities to help our children become independent. And, this independence can start when they are babies. First, with the Baby Sign Language, then on to using a cup and spoon, then toileting, reading, dressing, cleaning…the list goes on and on. I’m not saying we should send them back to the factories, but as an intelligent era of mothering, we ought not underestimate the abilities and talents of children. Fall ye not into traps of modern parenting trends that only lead to wussifying your kids. Amen.