No it’s true. Men only want 3 things. I have confirmed this unsing multiple methods of research. Anecdotal and field study. (eavesdropping, experimentation and questioning)
Early on in our marriage, my husband and I were easily able to pin down the very nature and essence of what makes a man “happy.” What makes a man willing to put up with a lot of crap in his life, happily? Just 3 things.
Now… some years later I went to an LDS ladies retreat where we heard a great talk from a man of a certain age (and his wife) about what men want. Guess what? They both agreed. Men want 3 things. Here they are:
- 1. Physical affection:
- 2. To be needed and have a purpose.
- 3. Homemade Pie
Let’s go over these, shall we?
Number 1: This shouldn’t surprise you. Usually physical affection means the act of sex, however, this can also mean physical touch, admiration, reassurances about their looks, manliness, etc. Usually, it means sex, though, until they hit a certain age. Men will put up with an enormous amount of discomfort in their life if this one need is fulfilled.
Number 2: Men want to be needed. They want their talents to be utilized. A man without a job, purpose or a direction, is a lowly man indeed. A wise spouse can make sure a husband is assigned tasks he can complete with satisfaction. Even compliments about how he is the best tire salesman ever, (be sincere) could be just what he needs. Women and wives are sometimes TOO capable in their own homes and lives that a man may feel that his only purpose is as a paycheck.
Number 3: Men want homemade pie. Okay, here is where the wiggle room comes in. Your husband might want cake or brownies or that gooey beefy casserole or for you to move your sewing crap out of his study. What they really want is for you to occasionally treat them to something that they look forward, too, (probably number 1) without them asking for it. “It’s been a long time since I made you a pie,” “cake,” “t-bone steak” or ” got your car detailed!,” “found that book you’ve been wanting to read.” What you are really saying is “I recognize your value to me and I am rewarding you with this little something to let you know that I love you and listen to you.” Do this often.
Real married men, who like who they are and are happy in the gospel, are not complex. (unlike women who are terribly, achingly and ooozingly complex) Ultimately, men want a happy wife and family and they will kill themselves with work and chores in order to obtain that end. A quality helpmate will recognize and anticipate his needs and do her part to help him out and remind him that he’s amazing! For a visual on this topic, Watch This Movie: Boys’ Night Out